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Chapter 6: Free membership dating sites

Synopsis

There is a lot of free membership dating sites on the internet today and understating what they are really all about will help the prospective client decide if this style of sites is suitable for their intended use.

Free dating sites are usually filled with members who are not really extremely serious about finding and making the one commitment to a lasting partnership.

Most of the members sign up at these sites just to “try” their luck, while others sign up to make new friends and form interesting liaisons, but the expectations are usually nominal and this makes the site very wide based and lack any form of discrimination.

Free Sites

Free membership sites usually don’t have very stringent policies in place and thus the protection feature is not really a prominently expected or required aspect of the sign up exercise. In this case the member will not be assured that the information provided is honest and trustworthy. There is very little tracking done to ensure all members have legitimate intentions for possible connections with others.

Most free dating site are rife the pop up advertisement and emails. This can be a very annoying interruption for the time and internet access restricted individual. Being bothered by such interruptions that don’t really have any connection to the dating service is not only annoying, but is also time consuming to have to keep clicking them close. A lot of scammers feature their wares on this type of sites and sometimes this eventually affects the credibility of the sites.

Some free sites only accept members from certain parts of the world or from certain social standings. However there is very little verification exercises that are conducted to ensure those who sign up as members are actually following the requirements completely. Therefore although the site has certain rules and stipulations there is no guarantee that all the members conform to these prerequisites.

Chapter 7: Paid membership dating sites

Synopsis

It is a common preconception that when something cost money it is usually better in quality and value when compared to something that is given away for free. The same can be said for the online dating sites as a whole, although there are some free sites that are quite good, but these are few and far between.

The following are some points that will show the benefits of choosing a paid membership site for dating services:

Paid Sites

The quality of the people who would consider signing up at paid membership sites is usually comparatively higher than other style sites. People who are willing to pay for services are typically more serious about the exercise of making genuine connection with others and are also from a better demographics platform.

The element of trust is arguably higher for those who sign up at paid membership sites. The general view is that, people who pay for something are perhaps more likely to be committed, thus availing themselves to actually making connections as much as possible. These members would take the time to design proper profiles, answer questions, and fill out forms and any other exercises that would be required at such dating sites.

In almost all such paid dating sites, the support and customer services given are of a better quality. The personnel at these sites are usually very committed to providing the services touted in their advertising campaigns. This is mainly due to the fact that such sites depend on the recommendations of satisfied existing members to broaden the revenue base, by introducing the site to others.

Most paid membership dating sites will be consistent in matching the members as frequently as possible. This matching will usually be done with the utmost care, as the members depend very much on the discretion of the service provider.

Chapter 8: How to write an attractive profile

Synopsis

Being part of an online dating data base can be a very competitive platform to be part of. Therefore the individual would need to be able to present a very comprehensive and attention grabbing profile that would ensure the interest of other parties enrolled.

The following are some tips on how to prepare the ideal attention grabbing profile and will ensure huge amounts of interest:

Your Profile

Choosing a suitable user name would be the first step that is required of the new member. However some care should be taken when choosing this user name as silly and overly descriptive names are usually not encouraged or well received. Such choices would not help to convey the member’s seriousness or commitment levels, in the venture at all.

Personal information should not be easily divulged, as there should be some level of privacy to ensure the member is adequately protected from unnecessary solicitation outside the safety of the online site. Giving out too much personal information, will only create a level of vulnerability that could endanger the member.

Including photos that are complimenting yet honest is another feature that is important to be included in a profile. Sad as it may seem, people are interested in knowing of the physical appearance of those they intend to communicate with before they decide to take the connection to the next level. Therefore if the member decides not to include any photos, the chances of getting any interested a “hits” would definitely be few and far between.

“Promoting” one’s self online is also another feature that the member should be savvy in doing. This self promotion is what is going to get the individual noticed over the many others available at the site. This will also help to ensure the member stays competitive and relevant.

Chapter 9: Finding partner with the same religion

Synopsis

Of late there are quite a few online dating services that cater to niche groups. This is getting to be a rather popular requirement especially when it comes to the topic or religious platform.

Many people today find it better and certainly less cumbersome in the long run, to be matched to potential partners that share the same religion.

Therefore making the effort to sign up at dating sites which specifically cater to the religious requirements of the member would be a better choice to make.

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Chapter 4: Discussing religion

Synopsis

Taking as much care as possible to avoid as many pitfalls will help the marriage get off to a good start and stay that way for much of the time. Pre marital counseling is one way to getting off to a good start because at this juncture the couple will learn about almost every different aspect of how to work at a marriage and what they can expect to encounter.

Religion

One of the more topics explored would be the one on religion. This of course for most seems to be rather a simple matter and if both parties are not really practicing any particular religion they may not see any real importance in this particular area within the marriage. However for the pre marriage counselor, this is a very important area that should be thoroughly understood for the benefit of both parties and for the eventual well being of the marriage and future children the couple would intend to have.

The aim here is to create some level of clear understanding and respect for all the various religious elements so that both parties will be better able to avoid any future conflicts that may arise successfully and without damaging the relationship in any significant way.

This is especially important for those intending to be part of, or are already in an interfaith relationship. This particular type of relationship has the potential of presenting even more problem than any other normal relationship, thus needing even more pre marital counseling care and guidance. In the initial stages both parties will not be able to understand the possible impacts of being in an interfaith relationship, but as time goes by it may become more difficult to cohabitate peacefully and happily while still wanting to practice one’s own religious beliefs, thus the need to explore and discuss matters pertaining to religion openly..

Chapter 5: Coming up with ground rules

Synopsis

As with every endeavor, marriage also require some ground rules in which both parties are expected to commit to for the betterment of the relationship.

The process of establishing such ground rules should ideally be done as a couple and if possible with the added help of an experienced pre marriage counselor.

This is very useful as it will help both parties go into the relationship with a clear understanding of what is expected of them both.

The following are some areas that should be covered by the ground rules to ensure the relationship stays the best it can be:

Rules

Laying down the perimeters of acceptable behavior and unacceptable behavior, would be a good place to start, although both parties already have some idea of each other’s personalities, the boundaries are necessary to ensure what is presently considered normal does not change in anyway and where unpleasant surprises are the call of the day.

Other ground rules should ideally cover the topic of finances. This very delicate matter is usually the main cause of problems within any existing relationship and without the ground rules in place, there would really be no guidelines to follow to ensure conflicts are kept at bay. Understanding the spending habits and commitments of both parties and learning how to reach compromises will help both parties eventually accept each other’s financial commitments and needs, thus creating a clearer picture of what to expect in the future.

Communicating is another very important ground rule to establish very early on in the relationship. Being able to communicate freely and openly should be something that insisted upon as this will give both parties a chance to be honest and forthcoming with their own thoughts and feelings within the relationship.

Chapter 6: Discussing expectations

Synopsis

Every human being has aspirations in life, and while some are quite detailed and extensive other may not really have that much to aspire about. However everyone should be given the opportunity to pursue such expectations without any outside pressure or discouragement.

What Do You Expect

For those who are lucky enough to have a clear picture of their expectations, finding someone who will fit the profile would be one way of going about choosing the ideal partner.

However for most people who tend to go with the flow, it might be harder to eventually be more firm with their expectations in the relationship.

The importance of expectations being expressed very early on in the relationship cannot be emphasized enough. This will allow both parties to be aware of the expectations, so that they can decide if they can be part of such expectations or if they would prefer to move on to another relationship more fitting to their agenda.

Expectations are often good guiding tools to have as long as they don’t become a dominating and uncompromising factor in an individual’s life. With expectations in place the individual is better able to adjust and also get the other party to understand the stand taken on certain elements.

A pre marriage counselor will be able to guide both parties on the way to decide and document these expectations in a more logical and realistic way, thus giving both parties an insight of what to expect within the relationship and its future direction.

Discussing these expectations will also allow both parties to be in sync once it is agreed that the expectations are acceptable. There will be less conflict and more working in tandem to ensure the expectations of both parties are adequately met within the confines of the relationship.

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Another way to generate leads virally is by using a Tell-A-Friend script.

I think you have to be careful not to let others abuse your Tell-A-Friend script because they can go spamming the Internet with it, but I think the best practice for using a Tell-A-Friend script is to have one on your download page for your freebie that you just giveaway.

It will say, “I’ll give you this extra bonus if you tell 5 friends about this,” or “10 friends about this.”

So, there will be a little form that they fill out and they’ll type in five different email addresses, for example, of their friends and when they hit submit it will send out a message to all their friends from them, which tells them to go and check out your squeeze page basically.

It’s really good traffic because they’re endorsing you, in a way.

They are friends of friends recommending you to other friends to your site, which is better than running an ad on some site where no one knows you, no authority is being transferred to you, or not trust is being transferred to you.

So you may be able to get really good leads by doing so.

Mike Filsaime, has a Tell-A-Friend script and there are other ones out there on the market that you can search for in Google by searching for Tell-A-Friend script.

I have a feeling those will also be on the rise in the future.

Those are one of those tactics that were used a lot years ago and you don’t see them as much anymore, but I think that they will emerge again, especially when people start using them in a way that makes the person who’s sending out the Tell-A-Friend script use their own email server to mail out the Tell-A-Friend invitation, that way they can avoid spam troubles altogether.

But the worse way to use a Tell-A-Friend script is if you’re telling people to send out one of their affiliate links and they’re an affiliate for you because then they may spam your site a lot because they’re trying to make money.

They may get excited, they might be spammers, or they might just get a little too excited and start sending it out to everybody and everyone they can find, thinking they’re going to make a million dollars overnight.

Integrated Cross-Promotions

The next way I want to talk about generating leads is using integrated cross-promotions.

I think Mark Joyner coined the term integrated marketing.

Well integrated cross-promotions are different kinds of cross promos that you have with your joint venture partners other than ad swaps, click banking, or anything like JV giveaways.

These are different because these are integrated into your marketing on autopilot, so you

to think about the different parts of your marketing systems that you can integrate some kind of joint venture link to.

For example, on your download page, you might have a banner that leads to one of your JV partner's squeeze pages and they have the same for you on their download page.

That would be an example of an integrated cross- promotion.

So instead of monetizing that part of your download page with an offer, what you'll do is do an integrated cross-promotion with one of your joint venture partners.

Another way is to cross promote your joint venture partner in your follow up series.

So in your email follow up series, maybe your fifth email in the follow up series will promote their squeeze page and their fifth email in their follow up series will promote your squeeze page.

Another way is through P.S.'s of your emails that you send out.

So when you're sending out an email to your list, you can make a deal with one of your joint venture partners to always promote their squeeze page in their P.S. and they have to do the same for you.

That's one way to do it.

Think about the power of integrated cross-promotion.

You're generating subscribers on autopilot by doing this.

You can add tons per day to your list or more, all on autopilot, by doing this a set of joint venture partners or with just one, but just think about this; let's say you have 10 joint venture partners and you're going to do integrated joint venture cross-promotions with your follow up series of emails.

Say all 10 of you in all 10 of your first follow up series emails, you all promote each other, well visitors would be flying all over the place and going onto your list if you do that.

Ezine Advertising

One of the easiest methods of building your own list of subscribers is by purchasing advertising in established ezines relating to your niche market.

You could consider purchasing a solo ad, or at a lower cost, purchase an ad spot within an existing newsletter.

You need to track how well your ezine advertisements are performing, so that you can ensure that it's worth the money you are paying to feature your advertisement.

If you find that your ezine promotions are generating enough traffic to justify further advertising, consider purchasing a top sponsor ad within select ezines and newsletters for maximum exposure.

Your advertisement should feature your squeeze page, and provide information about what you are offering.

Viral PDF Reports

The next tactic I want to talk about is using viral PDF reports.

So let's say you write a little report that can be 2 to 5 pages long, as long as it's rock solid content; it's going to be for a free report anyway, and you create a PDF report out of it. Well, inside the PDF report, you want to say that this is free to distribute.

Also inside of your PDF report, you want to have a link at the end that leads to your squeeze page or an entire ad that leads to your squeeze page.

What I've found in the past is that other people started using my reports to build their lists with.

So they would actually give my I reports away to their squeeze pages and I would generate those subscribers under my list, the ones who actually read the report and then clicked thru at the end.

The ones who read the reports and clicked through to the end and discovered you that way, end up being some of the highest quality leads you'll get because they've just read one of your reports, and they clicked through at the end to get your freebie, and you've got them on your list.