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Chapter 6: Take Care Of Your Soul

Synopsis

Sometimes, the never-ending responsibilities that people have to accomplish on a daily basis keep them from taking care of their inner self - their soul. While the soul is invisible to the outside world, it is still a living thing that needs to be given particular attention and needs to be cared and nurtured.

People strive to do their best and be the best that they can be. However, they often forget to keep peace in their soul. The health and condition of your soul matter in everything that you do in life. Every soul needs a degree of health. But how can you keep your soul healthy so that it would make it easier for you to improve the quality of your life.

The following are some tips on how you can take care of your soul:

Meditation

Meditation has become a new trend and lifestyle in this modern world. It provides tremendous benefits to your body, mind, and soul. Meditation empowers your soul, which becomes an important source of love, power, and wisdom. It also helps you attain higher consciousness. It is recommended that you meditate regularly. Start by taking 15 to 30 minutes of your day to practice breathing exercises. The more you meditate, the more you will find it easy to deal with your day-to-day problems.

Stop Thinking Too Much

You cannot solve your problems all at ones. Life is about learning and discovering new things. Thinking too much about the problems that you are experiencing can sometimes result to more troubles. Take and deal with your problems one at a time.

Learn to Forgive

As mentioned, you have to learn to forgive not just those who have done wrong to you but also yourself. Forgiveness will free you from negativity, resentment, pain, and anger.

Accept and Embrace Your Imperfections

Nobody is perfect. Don’t think that others are better than you. Each individual has his own flaws. Learn to embrace your imperfections and accept yourself as a whole. Your flaws make things interesting and help reveal your individuality.

Take a Break

For at least once a week, try to give yourself your own “ME” time. Unplug yourself from all the things that can make you feel stressed and tired. This means that your “ME” time should be free from internet, emails, phones, and other things that can distract you. The best way to unwind and take a break is to travel to peaceful places.

Practice Least-Resistance

Some people waste too much of their soul energy trying to become resistant to certain things or situations as well as people whom they do not want to deal with. It would be better if you encounter things or circumstances that are unfavorable to you. You have to learn how to accept such things and determine how you can adapt to the changes that such things will bring.

Read Books to Expand Your Mind and Imagination

They say that books are food for the soul. In this regard, it is highly recommended that you read books to expand your mind and your imagination. There are several non-fiction and fiction books that are available in both online and offline stores that will enable you to

improve your social perception, increase your awareness and consciousness about reality, and feed your brain.
Make Peace With Yourself

You may be a compassionate person who always wants to make the people around you happy and meet their needs. But have you even given enough of that compassion to your own self? Have you provided yourself with the things that you need to feed your mind, body, and soul? You have to take responsibility for your own soul and for your choices, behaviors, thoughts, and needs.

Chapter 7: Use Your Suppoi't System

Synopsis

When things are not going according to plan, people often resort to their support system to give them the courage, support, and encouragement that they need to help them pass through the difficult paths in their journey.

The following are useful tips on how to create your own support system:

Follow the Give and Take Principle

Before to start creating your support system, you have to learn how to you can return the favor that the people in your support system has given you. For every support and encouragement that you receive from them, you need to return the favor by supporting each of the members of the support system and helping them reach their own objectives and goals.

Engage in Various Interests

For your own personal support system, you can engage in a variety of interests that can pre-occupy you in times when you need healthy distractions in your life. Engaging in various activities can also grow as a person.

Expand Your Horizons

Your close friends, colleagues, and family can serve as an excellent member of your support team. However, in some cases, it would be better if you expand your horizons and consider those people whom you’ve met in other places. The relationship that you have developed with people whom you barely know at first but are willing to support you in every possible way can help you in creating a community that share their opinions, skills, knowledge, and experience that you might not yet know.

Being surrounded with a supportive team will make it a lot easier and more convenient for you to conquer every problems and challenges that life may throw at you. Such team can also surround you with encouragement and positivity, the key elements in creating success.

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Chapter 6 Build Compassion

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One of the key components of a successful relationship is being compassionate towards one another. When you feel like your relationship is lacking this one important aspect, this is the best time for you to start learning how you can put compassion back to you and your partner's lives.

A Relationship with Compassion is a Relationship with Happiness

People who are compassionate are people who are happier. Couples feel compassion for one another have more understanding and joy in their relationships. Compassion, the combination of consideration, kindness, concern, and empathy, is considered as the cornerstone for people who want to have a fulfilling love life.

When you feel down and sad, the simplest gesture of compassion from your partner can already bring so much difference to your mood. Encouraging words and warm hugs can already vanish any discomfort that you might feel. Having someone to hold your hand, giving you the emotional support you need through staying by your side, can easily ease away any pain, whatever it might be about.

Relationships that lack compassion tend to be harsh. Once this happens, interactions will be less caring, leading to the building up of resentments that can make you feel as if you are the only one who is in that relationship.

Development and expression of compassion can establish a safe zone for your love as well as other feelings and issues which might come your way. Nothing can replace your partner’s sympathy or soft touch. This is something that can heal the two of you, something that creates that emotional security that you have never even thought you needed in the first place.

Building compassion is very easy, with desire being the first element. Here, it is important to ask your partner about the needs that he or she might have and then explain your very own needs. Through such discussion, it will be easier to show compassion to one another because both of you know where your energy should be focused.

The second thing that might be a bit challenging is to commit yourself to always keep compassion intact in any dialogue. A compassionate relationship is devoid of harshness and once this actually occurs, the two of you need to pinpoint and shut this down right away so that you will be able to return to relating using the right manner.

A simple but effective exercise for enhancing compassion is looking into one another’s eyes. While movies might have extremely romanticized this action, this seldom happens in the modern relationships. Instead of looking intently on the television, stop and look deeply into your partner’s eyes and sense the emotions that he or she has in order to create more compassion and depth.

It is good to show compassion but it is better to be compassionate. If your mate shares a problem with you and you show concern, you make your partner aware that you will not only be there but at the same time, you also care about what your partner is going through. It is something that your partner will feel and will also return this kind of gesture in the same way that you did.

Make sure that you build and practice compassion as an essential part ofyour day to day loves. Nothing is more palpable than knowing that your partner cares for you in the same way that you do.

Chapter 7 Change Your Mindset Thinking Before You Speak

Synopsis

Saying the wrong words at the wrong time can wreak havoc on any relationship. Before you open your mouth and blurt things out, it is important to think things over to avoid hurting the feelings of your partner. There are tips that you can keep in mind in order for you to follow this kind of mindset.

Choose Your Words and Choose Them Wisely

Even the simplest words can inspire loyalty, uplift hearts and change people’s lives. They can give life to dead things or they can also mutilate what used to be whole hearts. Words can also be an assassin to a character, estrange a soul and show undue kindness and cruelty.

In any relationship, thinking before you actually speak is a must due to the words’ awesome and sometimes destructive power. All relationships have its own share of emotional garbage and unresolved issues which can affect them on a negative way. For the preservation of a relationship and make this thrive, thinking about the things you will say is essential as well as considering whether the words you will speak are coming from a loving and kind heart or a heart that flows with bitterness, rage, anger, and other unproductive emotions.

Once unkind phrases and words escaped your mouth, you can never take them back. Even if you try hard to say something different or something better, or fix the damage caused by the words you said in the heat of an argument, there is no means for retracting them, even if you try really hard. The damage is done. However, there is still hope and that is by thinking before you even speak.

One important thing to remember is to consider first the effect that your words can have on the other person. Will it make them feel bad? Will it lessen their confidence in themselves? Such things should be taken in consideration to avoid hurting feelings.

Saying things involves timing and you have to remember that timing is everything. Avoid saying negative things during emotional or hectic times. Never start any heavily emotional conversation if there is no adequate time to talk things out.

Consider your motives for speaking. If you just want to say something for the sake of speaking, then, think again. Will the words sound unkind? Should you just leave them as they are, unsaid so as to avoid any negative emotions? It is important to have true and good motives for speaking.

Thinking before you speak is vital for any relationship as there is no way to take the words back. Once a heart is broken, it will be broken no matter how much you try to put the pieces back.

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Chapter 6 Reprogram Your Mind About Smoking

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They say that the mind is a powerful organ and in the case of smoking cessation, reprogramming your mind can do wonders in order to be successful in your goal. There are several things that you can do for changing your mind and your life as a whole.

Change Your Mind to Change Your Life

Based on studies, there were plenty of ex-smokers who managed to let go of their habit because of a whim – a spur of the moment decision of quitting smoking instead of it being the result of preplanning. Research has revealed that through the different degrees of motivational tension to stop that a smoker can feel, mixed with various triggers in the environment of a smoker, it can lead to a mindset alteration which can encourage a more comprehensive and complete transformation once tobacco is immediately renounced instead of doing it in a certain planned time in the near future. Basically, quitting smoking has something to do with your mindset and attitude instead of having a particular plan.

People who look for information about the things that they can expect when moving through the entire recovery process from addiction to nicotine usually have more chances of experiencing success. Reprogramming your mind plays a crucial role in order for you to successfully win your battle against smoking. But what are the things that can help in reprogramming your mind?

Education

Education, as you probably know, is very empowering. This empowerment can go double, increasing education’s value when it comes to quitting smoking. So that you can be permanently freed from your nicotine addiction, the first step for reprogramming your mind is changing the meaning of tobacco for you. It is important that you change your relationship with smoking. And as it so happens, education can greatly help you in that aspect. Make sure that you learn about the things that you can expect once nicotine withdrawal takes place. read all the information that you can get regarding the addiction – starting from its effects to your body and how you can heal after you quit smoking.

Support

The value of having other people who have experienced or are experiencing the same thing that you are going through, and know exactly how to push you, is extremely priceless. There are now many support groups and communities with caring people who can serve as your inspiration in order to become successful in your efforts to quit smoking. You can join these groups and forums and use the things that you learn there to reprogram your mind and how you see smoking.

Chapter 7 Use Healthy Snacks Instead Of A Cigarette

Synopsis

There are actually several health snacks that can serve as the perfect replacement for your cigarettes. Aside from helping you get rid of your bad habit, these healthy snacks can also bring great wonders to your overall health. Learn about the best snacks that you can add to your daily meals to permanently get your hands off that cigarette.

Great Snacks to Replace That Cigarette

Cigarettes, just the rest of tobacco products, have large nicotine amounts. As you have already learned from previous chapters, nicotine can be addictive, which is why quitting smoking might cause a person to emotionally and physically crave it. The foods that help lessen these cravings for nicotine have the ability of providing not only good taste but also oral gratification in order to stimulate your taste buds. Quitting smoking is never easy and trying to quit will need utmost determination combined with eating the right kind of foods.

Nutritious and Healthy Snacks to Help You Kick the Butt

Cravings for cigarette can be natural, particularly when you are in an environment with high stress levels. In order to lessen your cravings, there are several nutritious snacks, like crunchy vegetables and fresh fruits, which can help reduce your desire for nicotine. For instance, you can bring snacks to your office. You can cut up several bite-sized pieces of celery and carrot sticks that can keep your hands busy and can distract you until the urge has passed. Celery can be of great use since its crunchy texture will be enough for satisfying your craving and the bonus here is that it has no calories. Apples and almonds are also some favorite healthy snacks of those who want to quit smoking. However, raw almonds, as well as sunflower seeds, low fat vegetable chips, and nuts need to be eaten moderately. Eating nutritious foods to replace the nicotine in your body will make you feel healthier and better. When you feel better, it will also take away your desire to light up a cigarette.

These snacks can be alternated with some other healthy foods in order to lessen the boredom of having to eat exactly the same foods over and over again. Other options that you’ve got include:

Hard Candy – This can help replace your desire to smoke and curb your urge to get a nicotine fix. Even though hard candy cannot be considered as a nutritious food, this is always available and can reduce the task of having to look for natural food products immediately once you feel the start of an urge. Lollipops are also great as you can hold on something while you eat hard candy, mimicking the act when you hold a cigarette.

Chewing Gum – This helps replace the oral fixation which takes place when you smoke a cigarette. Chewing gum can reduce your need for nicotine in cigarettes. This can give your mouth and teeth something to be busy about. Chewing different gum brands with good taste will help in desensitizing your desire for nicotine.

However, there is one important thing that you must never forget and that is to drink lots of water. Water can help in stopping your nicotine cravings almost instantly. Programs on smoking cessation usually encourage people to drink plenty of water every day as this can lessen the urge to smoke and at the same time, it helps the body to forget the euphoria that it experiences with nicotine. Make sure that you drink 6 to 8 glasses of water daily to lessen your cravings for nicotine.